So many horrific stories of abuse start with “he was great until we got married” and that’s honestly so fucking upsetting because it’s relatively normal.
Like so many women are so, so careful before they commit to a man in any way because he could turn out to be a horrible abuser. They find one they think is different, one they think they can trust, and as soon as they’re legally bound to him he turns out to be exactly what they feared he would be.
That’s horrible.
And, I can say from personal experience, it is embarrassing to get divorced almost immediately after being married. No one cares about how long you were together beforehand or what happened, they just think “Oh it only lasted a year, she’s so irresponsible”. On top of it being exceedingly difficult to get help from the police or other legal assistance(especially if you live together, share funds, children, property, etc.), there’s a heavy stigma that comes with it, only isolating abuse victims further.
I’m trying to think of something to say other than “boycott marriage” because I know that’s not realistic, but at the very least, please support divorced women.
By “support divorced women” I mean:
- don’t make us justify why we got divorced and don’t feel entitled to the details of what happened.
- don’t contribute to the stigma around divorced women that says we’re irresponsible, or that something must be wrong with us.
- If a woman close to you is getting divorced, don’t guilt her into apologizing or going back to her husband. If she’s the one filing, don’t make her question why she wants the divorce.
But I’m A Cheerleader is the best movie because the line “you think when other girls look at girls that they are thinking the same things as you, but they’re not” like there is no better summary of growing up lesbian
there’s a big difference between “food waste” as in “farmers destroy tons of food to avoid exceeding quotas” or “supermarkets throw away this much edible food because it doesn’t sell”
and “food waste” as in “it is not actually within the capacity of humans to perfectly predict and track household food consumption, so a certain amount of food per household inevitably goes bad and has to be thrown out every year”
the idea that food waste is the product of thoughtless consumers rather than corporate greed is really insidious
The army’s latest recruitment campaign posters are. Terrible and Bad.
Is… is this real?
Haha yikes
“your army needs you and your compassion” is truly a batshit way to start 2019
How is this not from a black mirror parody?
These are so clearly made by somebody 15-20 years older than the people they’re trying to recruit. And why would anybody think… “Hmmm… If we insult them and then compliment they cancel out right?”
me with 0 drinks in me, unprompted: lorde literally INVENTED the sad indie girl pop sound that artists like alessia cara and halsey are using today when she was only fifteen years old and the reason royals was such a hit was because it sounded like nothing else on the radio or the charts at the moment and for someone who has been so influential she is criminally underappreciated in this essay i will
every time I see this post I release all over again that this is the peak of humor for the human race. like this is the funniest goddamn thing I’ve ever seen.
